Memoir Writing Tips

Overall

  • What is my conflict and how do I resolve it?
  • What is “The Point?”
  • Be free—no restrictions, bleed on the page
  • Write like no one is watching
  • Write as the narrator with a sense of detachment
  • Search for the TRUTH (watch for falseness; write what you feel is true)
  • Write the small true moment when you had hope
  • Internal Struggle is the plot! It’s about personal growth, psychic struggle, inner conflict, your split heart
  • Where is the arc of your story?

Always think of your reader

  • What is the extraordinary thing that ignites or turns your story and arrests the reader’s attention?
  • Keep the reader in mind—what is your gift to the reader?
  • Take your reader where you want to be (not everything you went through)
  • Make it easy for the reader
  • Never waste a reader’s time
  • Are there surprises for the reader?
  • Tell the reader the dumb things you thought
  • The reader needs to know what you smelled, who you were, what you felt like
  • Explain openly to your readers why you remember something: “The detail is branded on my brain forever…”; “I remember that because…”
  • Use self-awareness with your readers: “I hope I’m not sounding…”; “I know it’s lame…”

Your characters

  • Are all characters critical to the story?
  • What are the hopes, dreams, and fears of ALL your characters?
  • Interiority—What’s at stake? What are you or your characters going to lose?
  • Do your characters stand on their own?
  • Can you tell who’s talking without knowing who it is?
  • Describe characters: physical appearance, actions, dialogue, internal thoughts
  • Describe or introduce characters from:
    • Some else’s point of view, “My sister always says I’m…” My mom always described me as…”
    • Photos—Refer to them openly: “in that photo, I saw…”
    • Compare/contrast—what a character is NOT, e.g. “Why I am not a thief”
  • Ways to introduce things you don’t know about a character:
    • “Did it occur to him…?
    • “Perhaps he thought…”
    • “She must have reflected on…”
    • “Perhaps the sheer relief of having at last decided…”
  • Quote others’ impressions about a character:
    • “Craig thought that John may have felt embarrassed…”
    • “He must have been intrigued…”
    • “…but perhaps not entirely displeased…”
    • “He must have known…”
    • “They may have felt…”
    • “It is not difficult to imagine the feelings Goretti must have had when she saw us for the first time.”

Setting and Scenes

  • Remember the setting
  • Does every scene help move the story forward?
  • You can lie! Then go on with your fantasy, create/invent a scene:
    • “I imagined…”
    • “It could/might have been…”
    • “My guess is…”
    • “Maybe…Probably”
    • “I could just see it…”
    • “IF ONLY…”

Writing details

  • Did you repeat yourself?
  • Watch word clutter
  • Simple sentences, nouns, and verbs!
  • Are you rambling??
  • Did you say the same fancy (quintessential) word more than once in the book?
  • Did you balance dialogue with narrative?