Memoir Writing Tips
Overall
- What is my conflict and how do I resolve it?
- What is “The Point?”
- Be free—no restrictions, bleed on the page
- Write like no one is watching
- Write as the narrator with a sense of detachment
- Search for the TRUTH (watch for falseness; write what you feel is true)
- Write the small true moment when you had hope
- Internal Struggle is the plot! It’s about personal growth, psychic struggle, inner conflict, your split heart
- Where is the arc of your story?
Always think of your reader
- What is the extraordinary thing that ignites or turns your story and arrests the reader’s attention?
- Keep the reader in mind—what is your gift to the reader?
- Take your reader where you want to be (not everything you went through)
- Make it easy for the reader
- Never waste a reader’s time
- Are there surprises for the reader?
- Tell the reader the dumb things you thought
- The reader needs to know what you smelled, who you were, what you felt like
- Explain openly to your readers why you remember something: “The detail is branded on my brain forever…”; “I remember that because…”
- Use self-awareness with your readers: “I hope I’m not sounding…”; “I know it’s lame…”
Your characters
- Are all characters critical to the story?
- What are the hopes, dreams, and fears of ALL your characters?
- Interiority—What’s at stake? What are you or your characters going to lose?
- Do your characters stand on their own?
- Can you tell who’s talking without knowing who it is?
- Describe characters: physical appearance, actions, dialogue, internal thoughts
- Describe or introduce characters from:
- Some else’s point of view, “My sister always says I’m…” My mom always described me as…”
- Photos—Refer to them openly: “in that photo, I saw…”
- Compare/contrast—what a character is NOT, e.g. “Why I am not a thief”
- Ways to introduce things you don’t know about a character:
- “Did it occur to him…?
- “Perhaps he thought…”
- “She must have reflected on…”
- “Perhaps the sheer relief of having at last decided…”
- Quote others’ impressions about a character:
- “Craig thought that John may have felt embarrassed…”
- “He must have been intrigued…”
- “…but perhaps not entirely displeased…”
- “He must have known…”
- “They may have felt…”
- “It is not difficult to imagine the feelings Goretti must have had when she saw us for the first time.”
Setting and Scenes
- Remember the setting
- Does every scene help move the story forward?
- You can lie! Then go on with your fantasy, create/invent a scene:
- “I imagined…”
- “It could/might have been…”
- “My guess is…”
- “Maybe…Probably”
- “I could just see it…”
- “IF ONLY…”
Writing details
- Did you repeat yourself?
- Watch word clutter
- Simple sentences, nouns, and verbs!
- Are you rambling??
- Did you say the same fancy (quintessential) word more than once in the book?
- Did you balance dialogue with narrative?